Is Eli a homosexual male?

[lombano]

"I don't have a drinking problem. I drink. I get drunk. I fall down. No problem."

You only have a drinking problem if your job is beginning to interfere with your drinking, or you have to hold on to the ground to avoid falling off the Earth.

Regarding men (women usually won't do this) accusing other men (and sometimes women) of being homosexual, this is very common among a particular section of the male population...

Sometimes I think it's because men 'police' their own gender very thoroughly and anyone that isn't up to the grade gets abuse to know that he's 'letting the side down.'

I suspect that this sort of 'policing' is indeed more common among men, but it's hard to tell, I remember an ex-gf telling me how she used to be picked on due to being (mistakenly) thought a lesbian and - granted, this was not in the West, but I also know of one case in Europe of a girl getting under another's skin by indirectly 'accusing' her of being a lesbian.

[DMt.]

Regarding men...accusing other men...of being homosexual...I really don't know what benefits they get from making assumptions about other people's sexuality based on their appearance. Maybe it's just a way of making them feel better about themselves at the expense of someone else?

Exactly, the same old crappy, unexamined projection. It's just bullying, really.

[gattoparde59]

Another idea to be considered in looking at male hostility towards homosexuals (of both sexes actually) is that most men are neither A or B, but fall somewhere in between. Combine this sexual ambiguity together with the general ambiguity of being a very young man, and you have a recipe for nasty behavior. You hate the thing that you fear within yourself. And yes there is the enforced conformity. Everyone must be an "A," or else.

[Dario]

DMt, thank you for the comforting words, but I'm not very concerned about it. At least not anymore.

Are you telling me that women have never ever told you something about being homosexual? Down here, being "accused" of homosexuality by girls is commonplace. Luckily enough, I think an effeminate look shouldn't be a turn off for most women even in my poorly-educated region.

[Klesk]

I think another point is that most sexual offenders are male and not female. For Woman there is no need to fear a rape or sexual attack by a lesbian woman. For men it is quite different. For me it is important that nothing will happen when I sleep semi nude and drunken in the same bed like my friend. When my friend is a homo this is a problem because everything gets a sexual undertone and I can’t be sure that nothing unpleasant will happen. There would always remain a certain distance between us.

It is the same with “Let the right one in”. Lindqvist castrated Elias to avoid any homosexual interpretation of the relationship between Eli and Oscar, because they are just (very good) friends and nothing else.

[DMt.]

Are you telling me women did never ever tell you something about being homosexual?

That's exactly what I'm telling you, yes. I've never had any of this crap from women. Other kinds, maybe, but never this.

[Dario]

Lucky you.

[DMt.]

Girls can be unkind too, I hear.