Good point, Oskar is heading into those difficult years where even the best parent is going to be challenged.a_contemplative_life wrote:Evidently, Dad, like Mom, is having a hard time dealing with the notion of Oskar growing up
Not so much the divorce as everything involved in the divorce. The drinking, the immaturity, the feeling that his parents didn't try hard enough to stay together. They certainly are not making Oskar a priority in all this. I think it also hurts children to see their parents get into bitter quarrels like we see in the film. The point has been made already that the last straw for Oskar are the scenes with the sound turned off, and Oskar walks by his yelling Mom and locks himself in his room. We see another shot of Oskar's Mom quarreling with his Dad on the phone. . .a_contemplative_life wrote:There are some people who would look at this whole situation and sum it up by saying that Oskar is the victim of divorce.
True. Still a good parent should be able to tell when their kid is having the kind of problems Oskar is having. Telepathy seems to be a special quality you need to be a good parent. My wife for example seems to have mysterious telepathic powers. It does not help if you are a working parent. When I think about all the crap that went on in my house when my mother was at work.NaKriege wrote:I consider my own mother to be a much smarter, more observant, and all around better parent than Yvonna, but I remember being Oskar's age and being able to hide plenty of crap from her. Its not easy knowing what is going on with your kids when you aren't watching them, especially if they know you well, can get into your head, and give you a reasonable sounding explanation that you'll buy.